In my family they always expect excellence from me, everything below that is not acceptable. I've grown with this idea that I have to be the best in order to be someone or to have their attention, how sick is that, they always expected me to have the best grades, the best jobs, the best taste and I didn't realised any of this until later on my life.
I became competitive and hard to please because I thought that I was supposed to be and had the best, everything in my life was about being the best possible to please others, not me and it was fine for a while but things got harder as everyone raised their expectations, I thought that I was not good enough.
There was this one boy that wanted to kiss me, he was looking around for an opportunity, idealising that kiss, telling me how pure and honest his feelings were, trying to make me fall, but I was afraid, what if he was expecting a good kiss just because I had a pretty face? what if it wasn't what he expected?
Ever since I entered high school everyone expected me to be this maneater, I had the looks, everyone expected to see me with different boys everyday, everyone thought I was an airhead with a passion for men, so when I started to get along with many boys as friends they started to talk, to say what they wanted, without knowing what was going on. Because that's what they were expecting.
Why do we feel the need to always expect something from someone? Wouldn't it be easier if we just enjoy the moment and stop expecting things from others? What if we actually do things instead of sitting around and expecting something to happen? We are putting unnecessary pressure on ourselves and others, for free. Expectations can ruin everything.
I get that it's in our nature to build expectation, to try and guess what would things be like before they happen, it feeds our curiosity, it's part of who we are, and there's a part that can make things more exciting and funnier. But there's also another part that can ruin the fun and pressure people into doing things they don't want to do or that they are not so good at.
What I'm trying to say is that instead of relay on expectations what don't we just enjoy the moment and what we are living, stop putting pressure on yourself, that's unnecessary and quite harming, but also stop putting pressure on others, just enjoy their company and support them every time they need it.
Just because things didn't went as expected doesn't mean that you can't enjoy it.